“Heaviness is only temporary, the daylight will soon break in.
The sunlight can change a heart in the wake of a bitter end.
Oh, I know, I’m gonna rise again. Set my sights on where I’m going, and my goodbyes to where I've been.” - “Rise Again” by Needtobreathe
As I asked God what message He had for me to share with all of you this week, those were the words He spoke to me. “It’s never too late to begin again.” He said in His gentle, comforting voice. Now, what does it mean to begin again? Is it ever too late to start over fresh? Is “turning over a new leaf” truly a luxury available to all of us? Is the best really yet to come? Or was our best in the past, never to be accessed again? These are all questions that raced through my mind as I began to process the concept of “beginning again.” A lot of you out there may be feeling like your opportunity to create the life you’ve always imagined for yourself is over. Maybe the door of that dream-job you were guaranteed after college hasn’t opened yet. Maybe you got left by the man you loved out of the blue, and don’t know what to do with the shattered remains of your broken heart. Maybe you have endured sexual abuse, or domestic violence and feel as though the scars, emotional or physical, will keep you in bondage forever. Whatever your story is, I have good news. Great news actually.
It’s not too late to start over.
The devil, (yes he’s real) wants to destroy you. Our pain is his pleasure. The Bible says he comes like a thief in the night to steal, kill and destroy. He has deceived this generation of women that the scars we bear will keep us bound forever. I believe one of the biggest weaknesses women struggle with is victim mentality.
We are quick to use our struggles and scars as an excuse for us to not move forward.
God has given us all the tools necessary for us to start a new chapter, a healthy chapter. If you are discouraged where you are at - change something. Changing our lives is more practical that any of us realize. I've made the mistake in the past of over-thinking every decision I made. I wanted to change my life but spent so much time thinking of how I would do it, that I did nothing. Months went by and I soon realized I was in the same place I was in a year before. So I decided to take action. I'll share a few ways you can take action and begin again below.
Here are some practical examples for those of you wondering (I’ve actually applied a lot of these to my own life)
- You feel the Lord tugging your heart to go into ministry: enroll in Bible college and trust that the Lord will work out the financial details. He always does! When He says GO, and you OBEY, miracles occur. I can tell dozens of stories, but I'll save them for another day.
- If you are tired of being stuck in a cycle of sexual sin in your relationships - take a break from dating for as long as you need. Your emotional health, is more important than any guy. Many of you may not know, but I actually had to cut off a serious relationship a few years ago to focus on myself, and discover God’s purpose for me. It still is one of the hardest and best decisions I’ve ever made.
- If you are struggling with emotional instability or anxiety (anxiety is something I struggle with quite often) - I encourage you to consider Christian counseling. I recently began meeting with an amazing Christian counselor, and I can honestly say she’s changed my life! If you are in the Orlando area, my church Faith Assembly offers FREE counseling, simply go to faithassembly.org to book your appointment! Part of beginning again involves getting the help you need. There is no shame in getting the help you need to live a whole, stable life.
- If you are insecure or unhappy with your weight - take intentional steps towards living the healthy life you’ve always wanted. A gym membership is an awesome tool. I am personally a member at L.A. Fitness and the YMCA. If a gym membership is not an affordable option for you, invite a girlfriend to go biking or running. Part of starting over is living a balanced, healthy life. Exercise is an awesome way to relieve stress and anxiety (and burn off those cals)
- If you are in your 20’s or 30’s and feel as though it’s too late to get your degree - IT’S NOT. My mom recently re-enrolled in school and seeing her study for her bachelors while being a nurse in the ER of a major children’s hospital has been truly inspiring! It’s pushed and challenged me to work even harder for my degree, so enroll in school!
- If you want a personal relationship with Christ -visit a local church in your area. It's never too late to start a personal relationship with Jesus. It is the BEST decision I've ever made. If you'd like to speak more on this subject, shoot us an e-mail at email@example.com. I’d love to speak with you about how Jesus changed my life of insecurity into a life of overflowing joy.
I could go on and on with this list, but what I’m trying to get you to understand is, the ball is in our court. We have no excuse to not actively live out the God-dreams in our hearts. I know this may sound like a rebuke, but I promise, it’s not. (well, maybe a little, but out of love)
This isn’t a blog post bashing women, I’m not trying make anyone feel lazy or unaccomplished. This is a CALL TO ACTION.
This world needs more females who will stop using their past as an excuse to live with a victim mentality.
We need women who will use their story as a TOOL to bring hope to a world where millions of women are still uneducated, seen as less-than in society, and being sold as sex SLAVES this very moment.
It is OUR job to tell this world, it’s not too late to START OVER. It is our job to start over OURSELVES!
We have the power to begin again whenever we want, wherever we’re at.
If a door has closed recently for you, whether it be a job, a relationship, the end of a friendship, family disagreements or an internal struggle, don’t be discouraged.
Turn over a new leaf, take a new path, begin again.
So long as you have courage and a sense of humor,
it is never too late to start life afresh.
- Freeman Dyson
I hope you received something special and specific to you today from this blog post. I’m a firm believer in the statement “The future is female.” WE are the future, and it’s simply amazing the amount of people we are reaching through this movement. Hundreds of you have become consistent readers every week and it’s all because of word-of-mouth. Keep sharing these blog posts with the girls in your circle, you never know who might need to hear it.
Adore you guys!
See you next week
Founder - Daughters of Day