The Comparison Game

Happy Tuesday pretty ladies! Today I want to talk to you about an issue that's been plaguing women for centuries now. It's brought division between the best of friends and ripped apart families. It's caused jobs to be lost, and relationships to come to an end. Competition. What an intimidating word. Growing up I played various sports, basketball, soccer, volleyball. I loved practices but what really mattered in my mind was GAME DAY. I don't think anything can compare to the feeling you have walking on the court, or running on the field seconds before the game clock starts. Finally, the game starts, you're on the field or court, your teammates are beside you and you've got one goal, annihilate the other team. Destroy them completely, make them wish they never came, make your parents, school and coach proud. WIN. There's nothing wrong with a little healthy competition, but unfortunately, among women, the kind of competition we allow ourselves to engage in is anything but healthy.

In the month of March me and Jenny have been posting blogs on community, why it's vital in the lives of everyday women and why it makes us better. We decided to theme the month of March on community because we realized it's easy to tell women they need each other, it's harder to LIVE it out. We've both made an intentional  and conscious decision in our own lives to be woman-empower-ers. We want to expose your greatest potential to YOU. Now, with that said, it's hard to come to terms with the fact that your greatest potential is right at your fingertips is you are constantly comparing yourself with others! One of the biggest struggles I've had since I was a teenager, and still deal with today is comparison. I always compare my calling and the season I'm in with the other women around me (who are often running a completely different race then I am!), and gage how successful of a person I am with how successful they are. It's an unhealthy, nasty little habit that has affected my moods, emotions and even work ethic in extreme ways. Social media has played a major role in this comparison game I've allowed myself to engage in, but I can honestly say that after adopting a few new habits into my day to day life, I am slowly but surely receiving freedom in this area. I'll share some with you today!

  1. Delete social media.

*GASP* You read right! Delete it. Not forever (unless you really need to, then do that) But the Bible says if anything is causing you to sin, cut it off.

Matthew 5:30

"If your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away."

I can't tell you how many times my right hand, (or right thumb rather!) has caused me to sin as I scroll through other girls IG feeds, ENVY (which is a sin!) creeps in and jealousy consumes my thoughts. Before you know it, I am feeling anything but fearfully and wonderfully made, most times, I leave a "scroll-sesh" feeling worthless, and that's not the life God died for me to live. I will often delete social media for days at a time to get my thoughts back to a healthy, positive place, and to also create more time for God to deal with my thoughts of comparison one on one. I encourage you to do the same! It's brought a lot of freedom in my life.

2. Work HARD.

Work hard so that there's no reason or room for you to even compare yourself with others! When you're focused on YOUR life and YOUR call, as well as God's will for your life, there won't even be time in your schedule to focus on everyone else. "Do you" and watch the pieces fall into place! It's Biblical!

Colossians 3:23 MSG

"Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people."


This is the most important point in my book! I've personally decided to be someone who encourages others, especially those I tend to compare myself to! I've found that when I force myself to do or say the opposite of what I'm feeling, I receive a sense of breakthrough. There's something powerful about encouraging other women in THEIR race. It not only feels good to be kind to others, it also pushes you to work hard yourself!

With all that said, competition is not 100% a bad thing. Competition can help foster a healthy community among women. We push each other to be the best we can be, just as teammates do on the field! We need each other, we need to challenge each other to be the best we can be so that we can fight stereo-types, prejudices and gender-injustice. We have to be fierce in the pursuit of achieving our callings, but we don't have to make enemies along the way. Being aware to some degree of what other ladies are working towards in your field can help push you to work harder, especially if you know you are capable of doing what they are doing. Just make sure you don't let that competition eat you alive and create a jealous, green monster! I hope this post on competition among women was helpful . Don't ever forget, you're a Daughter of Day, a queen in every sense of the word! Be blessed, and successful  in all you do!